withgreatpowermustcomegreatcake:
inspired by true stories
You can’t turn flirting into a complicated “game” that makes no sense and then throw a hissy fit when some men get confused.
giving minimal attention isn’t complicated lol
As a guy who has no idea how that “game” works, yes it is. Especially when a lot of girls do the “play hard to get” crap. Men aren’t fucking mind readers. My solution though, is rather simple. I’ll take it all at face value. I don’t play that stupid game. You play hard to get? Sorry, I’m gonna play dumb. You can fuck off or just come clean.
I mean, thankfully it doesn’t matter for me because I met my awesome GF and she cared as little for the “game” as I did. But it still annoys me when people play this game and this bitch when a guy gets the wrong idea. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
guess what! emotional attention isn’t flirting!
Guess what! For some girls it is!
You must be real fun at parties
I’m not bad at parties. The way I deal with this kinda shit is I just assume I’m not being flirted with until they make it obvious. I’m not very interested in playing the game so I essentially ignore any attempts to play it. My bigger problem at parties is that I’m not very good at breaking into conversations.
Stop being mad at men for not understanding you’re stupid game. If you don’t want stupid prizes, stop playing stupid games. I think it’s dumb when men play along with games they are unable to know how to play because they can end up getting it wrong, but don’t blame them for trying to play. If they get pissy at you and insult you and shit when they figure out you weren’t flirting then fine (although if you intentionally lead a guy on for attention then fuck you but that’s a different issue), they were wrong. But don’t blame a guy for getting confused.
Basic emotional attention isn’t flirting. not that hard a concept.
What bothers me about this mindset is:
1. When multiple women say something about women and one man bravely decides He is right.
2. The insistence that women play games as a method of flirting and throw tantrums when men are confused. Because women are these darn, irrational, temperamental enigmas, right, boys?
3. Shaming women who “play hard to get” and saying they end up with stupid prizes. I can’t speak for everyone, but when I was accused of playing hard to get, I was not interested in trying to flirt at all. Maybe us trying to reject a man while still being nice to him is what’s so confusing? I honestly don’t know.
4. The purpose of this post was to show how men feel entitled to the point where they believe any basic emotional attention indicates mutual atttraction. Because the basic courtesy and kindness we are referring to should never be considered a determinant of romantic attraction. And I think women telling men – quite simply – when their behavior is being misinterpreted and men arguing that women are wrong or liars says a lot about the initial entitlement…
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