beat his pregnant girlfriend, beat a gay man almost to death, supported dylann roof, mock the victims of the Charleston Church shooting, made a colorist tweet: “Death to Darkskins.” and yet you want me to have sympathy for XXXTentacion?
i genuinely hope anyone ages 13-15 on this website (or, god forbid, younger) stays safe and keeps their private information secure and really private
please, if you’re really young on tumblr, try not to get swept up in the discourse and the tremendous amount of arguing with strangers that goes on here. i know you probably feel mature for your age but this website, like, really psychologically affects youth, and i encourage you to be cautious about your interactions with people on here
please, kiddos, stay safe
additionally, for my young, non-adult followers,
depression memes about wanting to die aren’t a healthy coping mechanism and can lead to worsening symptoms of your own mental health if overindulged in
you are not garbage. or trash. i know these terms are popular on here, but you shouldn’t be calling yourself that. you have everything you need inside of you to become your best self, even if it’s hard to see that
seriously, really don’t trust adults who want to date you. don’t trust adults who call you hot, flirt with you, ask you sexual questions, or ask you for nudes. (that last one is VERY illegal, also, please get help from a trusted non-creepy adult if this happens to you)
the opinions of complete strangers who aren’t interacting with you typically aren’t worth it. move on, use the block button. it’s not worth engaging with people who are going to make you feel awful or unsafe
take breaks from tumblr if it’s getting really stressful for you. talk to friends if you’ve got em, play a videogame or do whatever it is that can take your mind off the massive amounts of Hell on this website
recovery is good. it’s really, really good. if you’re having mental health issues, please seek out help if you can, or ask a trusted adult or friend for guidance. you are not alone. don’t let this website make you feel like you are
I hate how men’s toxic behaviors get normalized by their girlfriends/wives.
Or I hate how women are taught to normalize men’s toxic behaviors? Like, my friends
bf was getting mad at her because she was spending time with me (for studying)
and not him. And he’d call her yelling on the phone, and she’s all like “Well, you
know how he gets! He’s just really paranoid” and I’m like, no that’s not okay. Not
when he does it every study session. I’ve seen relationships where husbands act
like children when they’re hungry, or seclude themselves from the family for
their “man cave”, or just exhibit really toxic masculine attitudes. Some men slam
doors, throw stuff around when they don’t have things their way and it’s all, “well
you know how your father/dad gets. Just give him some space.” Or if their bf/husband
is possessive, “he just worries about me, you now how he is”
Like NOO. That is bad. That is terrible and so many of these
actions just get normalized. Get written off as silly and romantic. Or, some
type of attitude or action that is familiar and expected of all husbands. I can
list so many more and it just pissed me off…
“When I first moved here I was living with my uncle in Brooklyn. He lives in a Jewish neighborhood. I accidentally set off his alarm one night when I came home. I couldn’t defuse it. The alarm kept screaming: ‘Burglary! Burglary! Burglary!’ I was the only black person in the neighborhood at the time, so I panicked. I knew it didn’t look good. And I didn’t want to die in this movie. So the first thing I did was call 911. The operator was like ‘What’s your emergency?’ I told her: ‘I’m staying at my uncle’s house, and the alarm is going off, and I need you to tell the responding officer to expect a black man.’ And she said: ‘Is your uncle black too?’ And I said: ‘Ma’am, all of us are black.’ Then I fixed up a bowl of macaroni and cheese, turned on all the lights, stood in the middle of the living room, and waited for the knock.”
