As
of April, 59% of U.S. adults who are eligible to vote are Gen Xers, Millennials
or âpost-Millennials.â Yet if past midterm election turnout patterns hold true,
these younger Americans are unlikely
to cast the majority of votes this November.
Time to break the mold! This year, everyone votes!
The only (peaceful) way to keep Trump and the Republicans in check, is to vote.
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If youâre not voting against these people then youâre voting for them. You canât bitch about what Trump is doing to this country if youâre not even attempting to do something about it.
listen i say this every time i see a voting post, but if thereâs a barrier that keeps you from physically voting (like, you go to college in a different place than your permanent address, you have work/school, youâre home with kids, youâre disabled, etc) YOU CAN GET A MAIL IN BALLOT.Â
Itâs called âabsentee votingâ, and over half of states donât even require any sort of documentation for you to get one. You can literally just. Request one.And then you can vote by mail ahead of time, saving yourself So. Much. Stress.
Oregon has mail in ballots for everyone, and we consistently have high voter turn out, which is why I spread this info, every chance I can.Â
Note: Also, technically your employer has to give you a couple hours off on election day if youâre working more than a certain number of hours, but losing paid hours isnât an option for a lot of people. So get on that absentee request!
Iâm going to get political for half a second and say absentee voting is really easy!
Can you imagine how fucking wild ladies must have gone for the rejection in pride and prejudice right after it was first published. This guyâs making ten thousand a year and her family is expecting her to find accommodation for herself sooner rather than later and STILL Lizzie is like âno. No. True love only. And also while Iâve got you here please accept my invitation to fuck off.â I wouldâve lost my damn gourd, I wouldâve gone bonkers. And group chats didnât exist so youâd just have to hope your friends were as far into the book as you so you could meet at the village green to throw a fucking riot
Iâd write my friends an urgent communique as soon as Iâd finished the Collins proposal scene too like âMy dearest Anne, you simply wonât BELIEVE the developments of this chapter. Read urgently and respond post fucking haste!!â And seal it with a wax stamp and shit.
1. Donât waste time being fearful: go for that job that youâre certain youâre not gonna get. Whatâs the worse that can happen? You are rejected, but you gain interview experience. Self-doubt is really a waste of time.
2. Live in the present. Yes, it is important to plan for the future, but it is easy to put off living until it is too late. Make sure that you have no regrets about what you should have done. Do one exciting thing per year.
3. Know your worth. This applies to both work and relationships; never sell yourself short. No job or romance is more important than your self respect. Also, charge for any unique skills/services that you can offer.Â
4. Donât be afraid to leave bad situations. I left a stable but draining teaching job in order to protect my mental health. Even though this was a big risk, it was the best decision I ever made. NOTHING is more important than your mental health.Â
5. Most 20 somethings feel that they are underachieving. This is normal – especially in todayâs financial climate. Donât feel bad if you are still living at home and cannot afford to rent/buy. Iâm 30 and still living at home, saving to buy.
6. People will disappoint you, but most of the time, itâs not about you. Everybody has their own demons and traumas that make them behave in certain ways. If somebody disrespects you, assert your boundaries and keep it moving. Also, examine if there was anything you could have done to avoid the situation. But DO NOT let it eat away at you.
7. In love, nobody owes you anything. Even if they made a promise, they are their own personâŚEverybody has the right to change their mind and to leave a situation which is not beneficial for them. This is hurtful and hard to accept, but it is the truth.
8. Learn to enjoy your own company. Your 20s can be a lonely time as your social sphere narrows, due to employment, finances and exhaustion. Use this time to find out more about yourself and do the things that you enjoy. There is something liberating about eating at a restaurant alone.Â
9. Be kind, donât gossip or overshare. I am still working on this one. It is really difficult to be kind and positive in a world full of annoying people. However, your attitude will influence how you are being perceived. If you are unkind, people will laugh at your jokes but they will never trust you. They will never trust you not to treat them as you treat other people. Remove yourself from toxic people, and only share negativity (sadness/anger/depression) with a therapist and one other person that you trust. If you overshare negative feelings, you may be stereotyped as being full of drama. Furthermore, people will want you to stay in a negative place because itâs entertaining and makes them feel better about their own lives. Just donât do it.
10. You cannot win every battle. Within conflict, it is tempting to try to force others to agree with your perspective. However, most people are set in their ways, and find it difficult to change their views and behaviours. This is especially important when dealing with toxic family members. You may never get the apology and empathy that you seek, so it is important to accept that every battle cannot be won, and gain validation internally, rather than externally.
i donât want to achieve equality by sinking to menâs level, i want them to get on ours! why should i have to unlearn the conversational art of waiting my turn, unlearn sexual self-restraint, unlearn trust in othersâ good intentions, unlearn the impulse to cater to othersâ needs, just to have a chance at success among savages? why canât the men learn some fucking manners so we can all conduct our affairs in a civilized manner? i shouldnât have to stop saying sorry, you say sorry!
In the 80s when I was in my freshman year in college, they still had entirely separate mens and womenâs dorms. I was in class waiting for a final to start and one of the guys was telling someone about how he had had to go into a womenâs dorm to drop something off, and he was startled to see posters on the walls, flowers, curtains, etc. He said his menâs dorm had holes in the walls, things on fire, fights, guys walking around with open wounds and he just didnât understand why they had to live like this. He said, âI want to live with the women, in civilization.â
Am reading Sisterhood of Spies, about women working for the OSS during WWII. One of the stories mentions that the women in London had a male visitor who would eat in their mess hall once a month. He was married and wasnât interested in hitting on any of the women; he just wanted to eat in an atmosphere where people said âPlease pass the butter,â instead of âPASS THE GODDAMNED GREASEâ
I dated a guy who brought me along on group activities (movies, video game night, etc.) with four or five other male friends. Once I mentioned to one of the other guys that I hoped I wasnât intruding on their âguy timeâ or some such. He got this sort of rueful look and said, âThe truth is, I really like it when youâre here because it gives us a reason to act better. When itâs just guys, we all have to try to outdo each other with how vile we are.â
So the moral of these stories are men donât even treat each other like human beings.
