it worries me so much that there’s been this (mostly unintentional) culture built up around coming out, to where young lgbt kids are putting themselves in danger at school and at home because they don’t want to “live a lie.” i just want to say, i came out when i was 15 and it created a lot of difficulties in my life that i could have avoided by waiting until i was older. it isolated me socially, it exposed me to homophobia from my parents, my family, my teachers, and my classmates at the most important developmental stages of my own confidence and sense of self… closeted people are not living a lie. closeted people are surviving. don’t let anyone pressure you to come out before you’re ready. don’t put yourself at risk when you don’t have to.
Historically, the importance of coming out was put forward by Harvey Milk as a tactic for normalization through representation; if your librarian, your postal worker and seven of the people in your local sports fanclub are all gay & you’ve been friends for years with no disasters, the rhetoric of queers as a monstrous unknown Other collapses. The thing is, Milk was mainly talking to other adults who had their own means of survival; their own incomes, their own houses.
Yes, homophobia has been used & is being used to eject people from their apartments & that is monstrous, & yes there are vulnerabilities which can cause you terrible harm as an adult, but when you are so much more vulnerable, your job is surviving. The closet is a survival tactic, & that’s all it’s ever been. It is not your job right now to be on the front lines of queer representation. Ellen DeGeneres & Laverne Cox are taking care of that so that you can be safe, & we’re going to need you to still be with us in ten years, ok?
You can find people who are safe to be fully open with, and you deserve to be able to do that but you do not owe the intimate details of the way you fall in love to people who would not treat you with basic human dignity.
People who will put you in danger have no right to your privacy, and no right to honesty from you, if that’s the way you want to frame it.
Also, you don’t owe this information to anyone. Even if you’re not in danger. Even if you just don’t feel ready, or just don’t want to.
Nobody is entitled to this information and if you don’t know what you want to do with it yet, you don’t have to do anything.
the wildest thing happened to me the other day i found out a male coworker is into irish music so i told him that my dad is an irish musician and would he like to come to a session and he straight up irl said to me “name 5 irish songs your dad knows”
he asked me if i play and i told him i played the fiddle when i was a teenager but havent played in years and he was like “oh cool. i play drums” as in a drum kit you know the famously folkish instrument the drum kit. bitch my name is molly o’reilly you really wanna challenge the legitimacy of my irish music involvement
this just in: romaine lettuce carries the e. coli virus and you will Fuckign DIE!
The health alert spans across the following states as a precaution: California, Wisconsin, Michigan, Ohio, Maryland, Illinois, New York, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Connecticut and New Jersey.
Throw it out.
Date: Nov. 20th 2018
AGAIN? Isn’t this the third time this year?
Not just America, California is one of the largest exporters of romaine lettuce to other countries. FYI!
Jennie-O turkey is also being recalled because of a salmonella outbreak.
Be careful friends.
Update: I was curious about all of the recent outbreaks and recalls and found a list. These are some of the products that have been recalled this fall
Peanut Butter Crunch (salmonella)
Many different cheeses, particularly those made by Green Cedar, Margie, Quesillo or Alebrije (salmonella or listeria, depending on which brand)
Some kinds of Natural Life dog food (too much vitamin D)
Mauna Loa Macadamia Nuts (E. Coli)
Duncan Hines cake mixes (salmonella)
Various brands of curry powder (lead)
Gravel Ridge’s Cage Free eggs (Salmonella)
Working Cow Ice cream (listeria)
Bazzini’s Pistachios (Salmonella)
Most of those, however, were able to be traced back to a specific batch and recalled. However, if you’ve bought any of these things lately, I would still be a little cautious.
Unfortunately, since they can’t trace the exact source of the contaminated lettuce, all we can do is avoid all romaine lettuce for now.
Honestly with all of the outbreaks related to romaine lettuce in the past few years, you might just want to avoid it in general, but that’s just my opinion
the warning is not limited to those states listed above. everyone should throw their lettuce out. its serious enough that the cdc is recommended sanitizing the fridge where the lettuce was stored w bleach water and throwing out any food that was touching the romaine or even in the same drawer with it (we lost about 20$ worth of food doing this but thats way less than the hospital bills would be if we got an infection)
Everyone going shopping on Black Friday, be aware of three things:
The retail workers are working 12 hours shifts. We are threatened with losing our jobs if we don’t show up unless we’re dying in the hospital. I had an assistant manager show up with fucking strep because he would’ve been fired otherwise. Yes, he did infect 7 and hospitalize 2 coworkers; who knows how many members of the public he infected.
The stores have, maybe, 5 of that special cheap thing you’re after. Corporate does this on purpose, and stores are not allowed to order enough. The prices aren’t even that much lower. They lie about how expensive something is to fool you into thinking you’re getting a discount. You aren’t.
Most of the workers you will come across will be new hires for the sole purpose of being bodies for about three months before they’re fired. They actually don’t know anything because they’ve been working there for maybe two weeks, and have had no real training. I was once hired at Staples a week before Black Friday and expected to know how to deal with phones, coupons, the online ordering site, and AS400 after five 6-hour shifts. This is the kind of person you will likely be dealing with at Black Friday.
Do me and my retail family a favor and don’t shop Black Friday. Any company that needs a sale day like Black Friday to get their sales out of the red doesn’t deserve to be in business.
This also goes for anyone that works shipment too. We’re suddenly expected to stay as late as they want you to even if they know you don’t have a car and rely on a ride to get you to and from work and know you can’t stay late. Shipment workers will suddenly start getting berated for not getting things done and it is by far the most stressful time to be a shipment worker for any store. Especially when they throw in new hires that don’t know how to process things and are expected to work at the same pace as the people that have worked there for a while.
Retail is shit around the holidays, especially Black Friday
ok fellow millenials, it’s time to kill black friday
LET’S KILL BLACK FRIDAY
Didn’t know any of this, but now that I do fuck yeah let’s kill Black Friday
Ok BUT, with all this in mind wrt Big Box Stores, there’s nothing wrong with shopping Black Friday sales from independent/local shops, who actually might need those sales to get through the January-March slump. I’m all in favour of replacing Black Friday with a Shop Local/Handmade day.
he’s mirroring! cats do that to be social that’s also why they will lie on laptops or books. they want to do what their humans are doing because they enjoy being in the same room and socializing that way. getting him his own prayer mat was a really good idea bc now he gets to mirror without being in the way!
The other thing is that cats have a very good sense of time and tend to like regular schedules. If OP’s family members pray every day at the same times, in the same place, the cat knows the drill and probably considers this an official Household Activity which requires Feline Supervision.
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