Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself
Me: I am violently depressed.
Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!
Me: *signs up for yoga*
Me: *is violently depressed in Downward Dog*
Me: I hate myself and only see my flaws
Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.
Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t
Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.
TL;DR stop perpetuating the idea that therapy is unhelpful because the results are not instantaneous.
FUCKING THIS.
As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL
Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???
because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there. suicides actually increase when medicated. why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself. which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.
it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours. that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE
STOP ACTING LIKE THERAPY IS SHIT IF IT DOESNT WORK IN TWO SESSIONS
OBGYN: Yeah, you are exhibiting all the signs of Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. I’m so sorry.
Me: Huh? Oh, yeah. Insulin resistance, impossible weight loss, pre-disposition to type II diabetes, painful AF periods. Likelihood of bleed outs. Crap. That blows.
OBGYN: Yeah, well that too.
Me: *blinks* What?
OBGYN: Well, PCOS makes it very difficult for a woman to conceive and carry.
Me: BWHAHAHAHA. Yeah. No. No babies. Ever. Never wanted them. At all. Maternal instinct is not strong with this one. Only upside today.
OBGYN: Well then. Not exactly problem solved, but we’ll run with it.
Me: So about the MIND-SEARING PAIN and occasional HEAVY AF BLEEDING. When can we deal with that.
OBGYN: Not until you are 35.
Me: Dah fuq?
OBGYN: Not my rules. Hospitalization won’t even consider any treatment unless it’s life or death until you’re 35.
Me: Why?
OBGYN: Because you might want to have a baby.
Me: I’m 31. I didn’t want kids when I was 11, I didn’t want them at 21, and I sure as shit don’t want them now. Can’t I just sign a form that says “I don’t ever want a baby take it out, take it out now”?
OBGYN: Nope.
Me: Why?
OBGYN: Government rules. No removal of baby making parts before 35 unless your life is in immediate jeopardy.
TL;DR: The government knows better about your baby making parts than you do.
This is just evil. They are literally refusing to treat a potentially life-threatening condition, not just without the patient’s consent but despite the patient’s protest. Evil.
According to the National Women’s Health Network, there’s no legal age restriction- “Technically, any woman of legal age can consent to the procedure, but it should be medically justified. It’s incredibly unlikely that a doctor will perform a hysterectomy on women ages 18-35 unless it is absolutely necessary for their well-being and no other options will suffice.” Of course, this is in the US. Other countries may have different rules.
If you’re in the US and your OBGYN says “government says no,” look for a new one because they lied to you. If your OBGYN says that “hospital says no,” look for a new one because this one doesn’t respect your bodily autonomy. It is true that most surgeons don’t like to perform hysterectomies until you’re in your late 30s at the earliest, but a respectful surgeon will listen to their patient and not just write them off. Sexism in hospitals is alive and well– and it’s not just anecdotal evidence. There’s been a history of looking at it academically/professionally since the 70s (look into Mary Halas as a good place to start if you’re curious), and it crops up all the time in articles in the Journal of Women’s Health and Women’s Health Issues, and the International Journal of Women’s Health all of which are peer-reviewed, well-respected medical journals. It’s absolutely a real thing.
Anyways, I guess what I’m getting at is this: here’s a list of doctors (mostly US-centric) who perform different sterilization surgeries without giving their patients trouble. While even a surgeon on this list might caution anyone under 35 away from a hysterectomy, at the end of the day it’s yourbody and your pain. (And some of the docs here have been known to perform hysterectomies on people in their 20s with no fuss.) While this list won’t be practical for everyone- after all, medical treatment is ridiculously expensive in this country, it might help someone.
Holy shit fam Holy S H I T
SIGN ME THE FUCK UP I’VE BEEN TOLD THIS IS NOT ALLOWED FOR YEARS
Oh god
QUICK REMINDER THAT I HAD A HYSTERECTOMY A FEW DAYS AFTER MY 26TH BIRTHDAY B/C I HAD CANCER AND I DID EXACTLY THIS. I HAD A DOCTOR WHO DIDN’T WANT TO DO IT AND THEN I WENT TO A NEW DOCTOR AND AFTERWARDS SHE MORE OR LESS SAID MY LIFE WOULD HAVE BEEN IN DANGER HAD I NOT DONE IT.
Sometimes it’s not the doctor, it’s the hospital. For example, my OBGYN worked at a Catholic hospital, so they couldn’t perform any type of sterilization onsite unless it was an emergency situation.
So if your doc feeds you this BS line about not being allowed to, ASK IF IT’S THE HOSPITAL POLICY. If it is, ask if they are able to perform the procedure elsewhere. If they are not, ASK FOR A REFERRAL.
I was 28 years old when my OBGYN explained that he wasn’t allowed to perform a sterilization procedure onsite, and then he proceeded to tell me what a crock of shit it was and referred me to someone else who was able to. And even though I was under 30, his referral listed me as “an ideal candidate” for the procedure.
If they pass off this line and insist when you know otherwise, FIND A NEW DOCTOR.
fandoms act like pedophiles don’t watch tv, read books, or use the internet. “fiction vs reality” all you want but predators consume content that aligns with their interests. real, actual predators ship adults with minors, possess child porn of both real kids and fictional ones, read stories that show csa in a positive light, etc.
like I can see a predator watching how y’all justify minor / adult ships and feeling validated. they don’t just enact violence outside of the internet. they are real people who consume media just like you and me. those of you who ship children with adults share a space with actual predators
it’s also wild to me that y’all don’t think a pedophile could ever be an artist or writer. I guarantee you they are content creators you enjoy on social media. you’re giving them a space to safely express their interests and you validate their inclination to hurt real children when you promote “hebephilia” as healthy. every time you say “the technical definition of pedophilia is 13 years old and younger”, some adult freak feels better about being attracted to a 14 year old. saved by the bell huh!
you’re harboring actual predators, making them feel great about themselves, giving them a platform in fandom & the ability to harass minors into silence with that platform. it isn’t just desensitizing kids, it’s also desensitizing predators
just like white people felt justified in thinking of black people as all sorts of stereotypes (monkeys, mammies, pickanninies, unintelligent, biologically predisposed to being enslaved, etc) thanks to racist cartoons, justifying pedophilia in fiction is a gateway to them excusing harmful behavior in real life and actually doing it. if that should bother you
76% of people arrested for child porn (cp) which legally includes simulated cp (that’s digitally drawn art,or CGI), have molested actual children. in the late 20th century cp had almost been completely wiped out, but the creation of the internet caused a resurgence and now it’s uncontrollable. but people think enjoying these things in internet fandom are unrelated phenomenon
y’all really surround yourself with people who spend hours drawing cp, writing about it, making headcanons for it, creating communities & organizing celebration weeks for it, discussing it on social media and skype, but then you’re surprised when people who spend their days indulging in the fantasy of adults fucking children… are outed as adults who fuck children. like
thanks for the sources! I didn’t have enough spoons to look it up
there are some really vile people trying to interact with this post, claiming that “fiction and reality are two different things.” i’d like to add a source that suggests that the brain is more susceptible to thoughts vs. actions than we think it is, and i hope OP finds it as important as i do.
this is an article about Alvaro Pascual-Leone’s neurology study at Harvard Medical. it’s actually almost a decade old at this point. in this study, he had a group play a simple piano exercise for one week, and he had another group only imagine playing the piano exercise for one week. in group one – the piano-practicing group – a new network of neurons blossomed in the brain to accompany the repetitive motion practiced on the piano. in the group that only imagined playing, the same thing happened.
the brain can and does form new neural connections when you only imagine something, even if you take no action. it doesn’t mean that everyone who’s ever had a bad thought is now a criminal, but this is a legitimate study that suggests that a concentrated, sustained effort – like a hobby, or writing, or shipping – results in real, measurable structural changes in your brain. you shouldn’t even need a study like this to prove “you resemble what you surround yourself with,” but here it is.
as a survivor of CSA, i am 100% not okay with anyone engaging with this topic in their leisure time*, and i think that “shipping” is the lamest excuse i’ve ever fucking heard to engage in real, damaging behavior. an abuse survivor who ships “because they’re traumatized” doesn’t get a pass, nor should they consume or create this content. i hate it when this gets brought up because it’s victim-blaming, using severely mentally ill people you don’t even care about as props, and describes a tragic method by which a victim grows into a perpetrator.
nobody’s fucking shippy feels or orgasm is above scrutiny and condemnation, nor are these things above the well-being of other people.
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*telling people to knock it off is not leisure time, trust me. i’m speaking about people who enjoy their interactions around child abuse.
summed up:
IF YOU MAKE CONTENT ABOUT CHILDREN IN SEXUAL SITUATIONS YOU’RE GOING TO ATTRACT PEOPLE WHO LIKE TO SEE CHILDREN IN SEXUAL SITUATIONS
I FOUND SOME INFORMATION ABOUT WHERE YOU CAN DONATE MONEY FOR THE VICTIMS OF THE FIRES (THANK MY MOM FOR HELPING).
There are not any links but I will give you the images and translate them for you, I swear on my life this isn’t a scam on my part, my mother sent me this information and she promises it is legit and not a fake, please I promise those are real.
PICTURE ONE:
Translation: Financial support. The municipality of Rafina-Pikermi (one of the ravaged areas) announced the activation of a specialised bank account in collaboration with Piraeus Bank, for the support of the citizens that were affected by the fire.
Piraeus Bank –ACCOUNT ID NUMBER: 5186092291418 . IBAN (dunno what that is, my mom says it’s like an account ID necessary for the transaction to happen): GR20 0172 1860 0051 8609 2291 418
PICTURE TWO:
Translation: The Greek Red Cross has proceeded to the activation of a bank account for the relief of the victims of the fire.
Account Information: EUROBANK
BANK ACCOUNT NUMBER: 0026.0240.31.0201181388
IBAN: GR6402602400000310201181388
hashtag is the greek word for wildfire, it’s active for those exact purposes now.
GUYS PLEASE I AM BEGGING YOU, IF YOU SEE THIS REBLOG THIS EVEN IF YOU CANNOT OFFER ANY FINANCIAL SUPPORT, MORE PEOPLE WILL SEE IT THAT MIGHT BE ABLE TO HELP, SO MANY PEOPLE ARE INJURED AND HOMELESS AND HAVE LOST EVERYTHING THEY HELD DEAR, FROM HOUSE TO FAMILY, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DON’T LET THIS SLIDE, HELP US NO MATTER WHERE YOU LIVE.
Thank you for reading this far. I am praying that these money will reach the victims, as soon as my parents get paid or as soon as I get some commissions I will send as much money as I can as well.
Have a beautiful day, and once again please spread this like fire, as ironic as that sounds…
Not quite whump exactly, possibly more fanon than anything else, but I love all the little scenes in Avengers that imply that Loki’s connection with the Chitauri was not pleasant or friendly, but rather… painful. And all the threats and general mistrust that lead you to think why were they working together in the first place?
It’s…not just an implication, though.
Okay, I just. I love this photoset, and no disrespect to the OP, but I am getting tired of people outside the Loki fandom behaving as if our belief that Thanos mistreated Loki is “just headcanons.” There is ample canonical evidence. Like, you can take Loki or leave him. No one is excusing his past behavior, and no one is saying he’s a character everyone is gonna love. But let’s just call it like it is: Loki has PTSD from working under Thanos.
1) Loki worked under Thanos at the same time as Nebula and Gamora.Like the sisters, he was a fieldmarshal, “child,” and “collectible” of Thanos’s; like all abusers and warlords throughout fiction and actual world history, he uses the psychological tactic of taking the young specimens of a conquered civilization and assimilating them into his own “culture,” in this case an enormous mercenary intergalactic army, for his own purposes, therefore both debasing and demoralizing the enemy. Nebula and Gamora both suffered “enhancements” to their body chemistry and, in Nebula’s case, to their anatomical structure**** in order to be made better fit to find Infinity Gems. What was Loki’s role under Thanos? To secure an Infinity Gem. It is inescapable that Loki was mistreated by Thanos. Why else would he hate him so much for “saving” him and equipping him with power?
2) Why did Loki work under Thanos, if Thanos mistreated him? Because, as the Other made explicitly clear, to deny Thanos his wits, knowledge, and resources would be to be tortured and killed. If Loki wanted to ever see life beyond Thanos’s grasp, he had to provide the Tesseract.Having earth to rule in Odin and Thor’s image was just a consolation prize; Loki’s main goal was to SURVIVE THANOS. I don’t blame people for not realizing this upon seeing Avengers Assemble; the movie was enjoyable but the writing was often convoluted and unclear, making it seem as if Loki’s only goal was to be a “diva” who “freed people from freedom.” All of that was a distraction.
3) How do I know that? Not just because of little morsels of evidence, like Loki showing signs of heat exhaustion and back injury, but for bigger, more incontrovertible reasons: Loki’s conversation with Thor at Stark Tower, during the Chitauri Invasion, before stabbing him in the side. A deleted scene shows that the Other CAN HEAR LOKI and not even necessarily through the Mind Gem in the scepter, as does a scene in the gifset above, and the Other will take all of Loki’s disobedience directly back to Thanos. Therefore when Thor pleas with Loki to join forces with him, Loki is not at liberty to agree; he has to say “it’s too late” and flee, even though he is brought to tears, lamenting the “sentiment” that he wishes he could acknowledge and indulge, but it would get them both killed. Remember at this point Thor has no idea Thanos even exists, but Loki does. And Loki knows that there will be unending torture, not just from threats, but from experience, if he fails.
4) Loki hid on Asgard as Odin. Does anyone really believe that was just to be lazy, drink wine, and watch plays of himself? No. He was hiding from Thanos, particularly with the knowledge that he had sent the Aether, another Infinity Gem, to the Collector, and kept the Tesseract safely stored in Asgard’s Vault. Hell, I could speculate that he didn’t even know the Infinity Gauntlet was a fake, as Hela revealed, and thought that as long as that was hidden in the Vault, he was safe, but again, this post is not about speculation. But why is Loki so terrified of Thanos that he’d put his entire life on hold and masquerade indefinitely as Odin? Because Thanos is a monster and mistreated him.
5) Probably most importantly, Tom Hiddleston discussed the script of Avengers with Joss Whedon and they decided explicitly that Thanos AND the Chitauri physically and psychologically abused Loki. (I do not have the old 2012 interview link but if anyone reading this does, please send it).
I have more reasons but honestly? Tl;dr Thanos mistreated Loki. It’s a fact, like “Loki has black hair.” As someone who has PTSD and as someone who has training in counseling, I happen to think it informs his behavior for every film installment from Avengers 1 on. You can reject Loki as a character, but you cannot reject the facts about his backstory.
****please note that Nebula was disfigured simply in a fit of sadistic pique over how she couldn’t measure up to her sister, and later when the siblings formed a healthier emotional bond, Thanos killed Gamora in front of, and to further spite, Nebula. And anyone thinks Thanos wouldn’t also have enough spite to do direct harm to Loki?
****Bear in mind also that the Tesseract/Space Gem, while not controlling a mind overtly, does have negative psychological affects, much like substance abuse. Thanos used that to hook Loki–much like Loki used it to hook Bartonand Selvig–and provide himself an insurance policy of absolute obedience. Like, that’s also canon. Not piddling, not headcanons, not grasping at straws. CANON.
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