I’ve been on Tumblr long enough that I’m like 90 percent sure there are people still following me from the 2013-2014 boom days who’ve just changed their icons and their blog focus and their url and now I only have the general sensation that I know them for? reasons??? but no idea why
it worries me so much that there’s been this (mostly unintentional) culture built up around coming out, to where young lgbt kids are putting themselves in danger at school and at home because they don’t want to “live a lie.” i just want to say, i came out when i was 15 and it created a lot of difficulties in my life that i could have avoided by waiting until i was older. it isolated me socially, it exposed me to homophobia from my parents, my family, my teachers, and my classmates at the most important developmental stages of my own confidence and sense of self… closeted people are not living a lie. closeted people are surviving. don’t let anyone pressure you to come out before you’re ready. don’t put yourself at risk when you don’t have to.
Historically, the importance of coming out was put forward by Harvey Milk as a tactic for normalization through representation; if your librarian, your postal worker and seven of the people in your local sports fanclub are all gay & you’ve been friends for years with no disasters, the rhetoric of queers as a monstrous unknown Other collapses. The thing is, Milk was mainly talking to other adults who had their own means of survival; their own incomes, their own houses.
Yes, homophobia has been used & is being used to eject people from their apartments & that is monstrous, & yes there are vulnerabilities which can cause you terrible harm as an adult, but when you are so much more vulnerable, your job is surviving. The closet is a survival tactic, & that’s all it’s ever been. It is not your job right now to be on the front lines of queer representation. Ellen DeGeneres & Laverne Cox are taking care of that so that you can be safe, & we’re going to need you to still be with us in ten years, ok?
You can find people who are safe to be fully open with, and you deserve to be able to do that but you do not owe the intimate details of the way you fall in love to people who would not treat you with basic human dignity.
People who will put you in danger have no right to your privacy, and no right to honesty from you, if that’s the way you want to frame it.
Also, you don’t owe this information to anyone. Even if you’re not in danger. Even if you just don’t feel ready, or just don’t want to.
Nobody is entitled to this information and if you don’t know what you want to do with it yet, you don’t have to do anything.
the wildest thing happened to me the other day i found out a male coworker is into irish music so i told him that my dad is an irish musician and would he like to come to a session and he straight up irl said to me “name 5 irish songs your dad knows”
he asked me if i play and i told him i played the fiddle when i was a teenager but havent played in years and he was like “oh cool. i play drums” as in a drum kit you know the famously folkish instrument the drum kit. bitch my name is molly o’reilly you really wanna challenge the legitimacy of my irish music involvement
this just in: romaine lettuce carries the e. coli virus and you will Fuckign DIE!
The health alert spans across the following states as a precaution: California, Wisconsin, Michigan, Ohio, Maryland, Illinois, New York, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Connecticut and New Jersey.
Throw it out.
Date: Nov. 20th 2018
AGAIN? Isn’t this the third time this year?
Not just America, California is one of the largest exporters of romaine lettuce to other countries. FYI!
Jennie-O turkey is also being recalled because of a salmonella outbreak.
Be careful friends.
Update: I was curious about all of the recent outbreaks and recalls and found a list. These are some of the products that have been recalled this fall
Peanut Butter Crunch (salmonella)
Many different cheeses, particularly those made by Green Cedar, Margie, Quesillo or Alebrije (salmonella or listeria, depending on which brand)
Some kinds of Natural Life dog food (too much vitamin D)
Mauna Loa Macadamia Nuts (E. Coli)
Duncan Hines cake mixes (salmonella)
Various brands of curry powder (lead)
Gravel Ridge’s Cage Free eggs (Salmonella)
Working Cow Ice cream (listeria)
Bazzini’s Pistachios (Salmonella)
Most of those, however, were able to be traced back to a specific batch and recalled. However, if you’ve bought any of these things lately, I would still be a little cautious.
Unfortunately, since they can’t trace the exact source of the contaminated lettuce, all we can do is avoid all romaine lettuce for now.
Honestly with all of the outbreaks related to romaine lettuce in the past few years, you might just want to avoid it in general, but that’s just my opinion
the warning is not limited to those states listed above. everyone should throw their lettuce out. its serious enough that the cdc is recommended sanitizing the fridge where the lettuce was stored w bleach water and throwing out any food that was touching the romaine or even in the same drawer with it (we lost about 20$ worth of food doing this but thats way less than the hospital bills would be if we got an infection)
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